Monday, January 28, 2013

The Nemo Interview

The Nemo Interview... 


After convincing Maily (I call her Nemo) to try out a wonderful new Indian spot for lunch on a very dreary Saturday I also managed to persuade her to come back to my apartment for this interview.  Since the atmosphere was relaxed and this was done in person the perspective is more conversational than the usual email Q & A.  We've known each other now for a little over a year and Nemo has become one of my most trusted friends and an excellent partner in crime.  At 33 years old Maily has enough experience in life to give a great perspective on any topic and she's always smiling or laughing; just a wonderful person to be around with a great heart.  And a mouth that makes rivals only Veronica and Andrew Dice Clay, which makes her more of catch.  When she finally decides to get back into dating someone serious she'll have a line a mile long.

B:  When you go on a blind date or a date with someone you don’t know very well yet what do you look for regarding chemistry?
M:  The first thing I look at is how hot they are.  They have to grab my attention physically and then I'll see how their personality is.
B:  Yeah, the physical attraction has to be there first.  What about w ____.
M:  Yeah, at first I thought "UGH!", but then I ended up in a relationship with him.  So I guess if the communication is there and they are interesting then it works.  I can't be bored with what they have to say.

B:  If you’re changing from friends or thinking about going from friends to dating what changes in their behavior do you look for?
M: I don't date my friends and never have so that hasn't come up.

B:  What does passion means to you:
M:  Being able to be with someone sexually but making it about more than just the sex.  How you feel about each other in the moment; It doesn't have to be in a relationship but just how you feel in that moment.

B:  What qualities in a person turn you off
M:  Cockiness... I hate when people think they're all that but they aren't.  When they over brag about shit too, It's like who cares?  Also LAZY people, ugh.. Negative people too.  Oh and liars, that's a huge deal for me. I don't and have never cheated so I don't get it.  I'd rather have you tell me the worst shitty truth ever than lie to my face.

B:  How would you describe yourself Politically/ Socially- what are some deal breakers in a partner?
M:The first thing I thought about was politics and I'm politically stupid.  I don't agree with a lot of things going on but it's like, What am I going to do to change it?  A deal breaker.... Very strong and overly judgmental people- and the self righteous Christians; don't force yourself and beliefs on me.

B:  What’s your stance on drugs?
Pretty much what you said before.  I don't do drugs, but I don't judge people that do them... unless it's something like Coke.  As long as it was something light for recreational use I'd be OK, but if it was every day I'd definitely have an issue.


B:  Do you consider yourself more up to date on news issues or celebrity gossip
M:  Neither.  I don't watch much TV.  I don't watch the news either because it's always depressing and negative and they talk about horrible things.  Now Football and Sports are different- I read everything I can about the Cowboys and look that shit up.  
*Note-  Maily is CRAZY about the Cowboys.  It's a lot of fun watching a game with her because she is so passionate about every play and every call.  She knows the players, stats, coaches, etc.  If you ever get the change to catch a game with her you should.  There's also an awesome pic of her in an old school cowboys hat she forbid me post.

B:  Since I know you read a lot, what’s the last great book you read?
M:  A Storm of Swords, it's the third one in the Game of Thrones series.  I like the series a lot, but the fourth book sucked.

B: What's the best meal you've ever eaten?
M:  Ah, fuck I don't know
B:  Think fool, I know mine.....  
M:  That's cause you just went to yours!  Probably last year when we all went to dinner for Swa's birthday- Perry's 

B:  What's the best date you ever went on?
M:  When I met _____.  We met at a concert during the day and talked for hours; when we finished we just looked up and it was night with all the stars out.  We ended up on a rooftop again looking at stars and talking about everything and anything.  We both fell asleep on the patio outside and he was a perfect gentleman.  He was respectful, the date was spontaneous, he was so sweet and everything happened randomly.  The conversation made it wonderful.


B:  What makes you uncomfortable in a relationship
M:  Nothing comes to mind.  (later we were talking about something else and this was answered) Not trusting me and jealous people.  It will never work if he's jealous of my relationship with guy friends and doesn't trust me.

B:  Do you think being in a relationship makes your life easier or harder?
M: Easier!  I've always been in a relationship (*until the past year) and it's never held me back.  I'm not clingy and I don't care if you do your own things.  Financially it's definitely easier.

B:  What's the best relationship you've been in and how long?
M:  I don't think it's happened yet.  If I had to make a choice of all the ones I've been in then ____.  We had a lot of the same friends so doing things and scheduling vacations was always easy.

( Pause interview and I make her an Appleton's dark rum, orange liqueur, and Sprite... possibly too strong)

B:  Do you have or want kids?
M:  I have one, a 9 year old. 
B:  What about any more down the line?
M:  More?  More would depend on the relationship I was in.  I wouldn't have to be married but if I was with someone that I knew was going to be forever and he wanted to have one then I would be up for it. It just has to be the right decision and not have a kid or get married just because other people think you should.

B:  What’s your stance on religion or philosophy?
M:  As long as they leave me the fuck alone and don't pressure me with their beliefs I'm cool.  If he was religious I'm OK with that as long as it's nothing hardcore.
B:  So none of that "Do this or you'll burn in hell"
M: Nah, fuck that.

B:  Who wins a fight to the death between Yogi the Bear and Bullwinkle the Moose?
M:  Yogi the Bear.  I like Bullwinkle better, but Yogi is like, retarded at getting shit done.  So Yogi.

B:  If you joined a biker gang what would your nickname be?
M:  I don't know.  I like the nickname you call me, Nemo, because I think I'm like that.  A friend also calls me Squirelly and I like that but I don't know.

B:  The best comedian of all time is?
M:  Don't know, I don't really watch comedy.
B:  Do you ever go to the Improv and watch comics?
M:  Yeah, but just with friends and it's fun but I don't know.


B:  If you had to pick one brand that is all encompassing of your style and attitude it would be?
M:  Something cheap and cute.
B:  What's a brand you usually buy?
M:  Every time I've need something nice I always find it at BCBG.  That's where I find everything that I really like.  For _____ wedding I bought the dress there and hid the tags and returned that shit the next day.
B: HAHAHA, I know a lot of girls that do that.  Seems strange to a guy but to a girls its completely normal and acceptable.

B:  What is spidermaning?
M:  I don't know? 
(I tell her)
M: Holly fuck, do guys really do that?
B: Yeah, like in a hotel or something like that.

B:  If money was no object what kind of car would you drive?
M:  Something sporty like a Benz or a BMW

B:  What’s the most beautiful to you?
M:  There's a lot.
B:  What's the first thing that came to mind?
M:  The sky, the universe, what's out there.  That always seems so nice.  The second thing would be kids honestly.  When it's cute and funny as hell becuase they don't know what they did.

  B: What’s your favorite alcoholic beverage?
M:  Firefly sweet tea vodka with lemonade or sangria.
B:  Really, I would thought you said Dos Equis.
M:  I've been drinking more liquor drinks now, beer makes me feel fat
B:  Yeah, When I drink a lot of beer my face is all bloated like this:
M:  HAHAHAHA.  I take it back, that right there, that's the most beautiful thing to me.

B:  If you were to go on a solo trip and not know anyone there where would you go?
M:  Brazil.  There's parties, a beautiful beach, everyone is beautiful and I'd come back with boob implants.
B:  HAHAHA
M:  Nothing big, I'd just like to fill out at least a B, shit I can't even fill out an A cup.

B:  Does monogamy scare you?
M:  Nope


B:  How many 8 year olds could you beat you up one by one if they were standing in a row.
M:  HAHAHA.  I'm trying to imagine myself kicking Natalie and Issac's ass.  I'm pretty ghetto, so a lot.
B: You have to give me a number.
M:  30, at least 30.

And with that folks we're done... Maybe another interview this week or maybe a few more stories that take your opinion of me down slightly less than it already was.

Thursday, January 24, 2013

2 dates, 2 horribly Different Results

As I noted in the previous post I was sick all last week.  Without being able to think, let alone post anything, I feel a good story to make people laugh who are feeling the affects of this season's crazy temperature and pollen would be a kind gesture on my part.  Before I get into the 48 hours of confusion I wanted to shamelessly plug what's on my playlist at the moment; inspiration, a muse of sorts, call it what you will but it's made my brain go into over drive and with the ODS currently down I can't direct that focus to code.
Ludovico Einaudi- In a Time Lapse.  It's classical and instrumental  but not in the way Rachmaninoff is.  The album is a soundtrack to life, as you hear the tempo change you can visualize seasons, emotions, the flow of the city, life.  I can't think of any other way to explain it.  I found it going through iTunes looking for a Snow Patrol track, 'Lightning Strikes (What if the Storm Ends)', and have been so grateful for my fat fingering the name.  It's wonderful, just wonderful.
Random Tracks- Tim McMorris- 'Overwhelmed'.  You can hear a bit of the song in the new Sam Addams commercial, which is where I first heard it.  I think it's a very beautiful song that I can only imagine will be played (or at least should) at numerous psuedo-hipster weddings.  On to the stories!!!!

Mid/ Late February 2011-  I don't know the exact dates but I do know it was shortly after the Superbowl when I was putting a lot of time into OKCupid with little to show for it and I had recently stopped "seeing" someone who I been been dating even though the relationship officially ended in October.  The first date was on a Friday promptly followed by date number 2 on Saturday.

OK Cupid Date 1:
After messaging with Kim (I have no idea her name now) for 2 weeks we decided to meet up over by TCU right near my favorite taco joint Salsa Limon.  We were going to get some drinks and get to know each other a little better.  We hadn't spoken on the phone and she was a grad student at TCU who majored in Education.  Right there it should have been a clue.  I don't have a good track record with teachers or professors, I don't see a lot of drive in them nor do they usually take a holistic approach when discussing a topic.  It's tough to read someone through their written or typed words and even though a good friend of mine swears by "People with less education talk like they write and people with higher education write like they talk" I don't see the correlation as much as she does.
We meet in front of the bar at 8:00, I'm a little (a lot) early and she's a little late.  She was actually better looking in person than in her pictures.  She was put together very well; nicely dressed with a sweater, Burberry check scarf, pea coat, and heels on.  Looking back I can pick out the outfit but if she were to walk in front of me I wouldn't have a clue what her face looked like.  Kind of generic pretty blonde caucassion girl?  We walk in and are seated at a table and order drinks, a XX for me and Pinot Grigio for her and the conversation begins:
B: "So, besides school what are your hobbies?"
K: "What do you mean?"
B: "What do you like to do in your spare time, when you're not focused on school what do you do for fun?"
K (Confused): "Why do you want to know that?"
B (very confused and somewhat frustrated): "I'm trying to get to know you better?"
K: "Oh. (long pause as she thinks, followed by an angry Tone).  I guess go to bars with my friends and watch reality TV. That's it."
B (At this point I stand up and put my coat on):  "I don't think this is going to work.  Here's $20, this will cover the drinks.  You're very beautiful, physically, I'm sure you'll meet someone more your type really soon".
At this point I leave and walk around the corner and over to Salsa Limon for some Tacos.  As I'm sitting at the picnic table in front of their food truck She's walking by on the phone.
K: "Yeah, he just left. Paid for the drinks and left.  Yeah, Fuck HIM!  I was only meeting his fat ass out so I could score some free drinks, I'm broke girl!"
So much about that short interaction confused me.  The question I asked was small talk but it confused her, does she normally go out with people that speak in grunts or use shots to communicate interest (which I've done before)?  I guess it wasn't horrible, more confusing than horrible.  Knowing I had another date the following night I smiled and knew I made the right choice....

OK Cupid Date #2
This one I actually had high hopes for. We spoke on the phone a few times and arranged to meet in Sundance over at the Saucer to get to know each other better.  8:00, again being the magic date time we both arrived at the same time, I walked from home and noticed her parking in the lot behind the Saucer as I was crossing it.  She was gorgeous  small framed, short, brunette with a cute just above her shoulder length cut.  She was also wearing chucks- man, if that is not a direct route to my heart.  Any girl that rocks converse or skate shoes is already a leg up on everyone else in my book.  We grabbed a table upstairs in the little speak easy room to the right and things just flowed well.  The bartender came over and I ordered some amber or winter lager and she said that she couldn't drink because she was just finishing up some medication.  I offered to move the venue to another place and she said no, she liked the Saucer a lot and didn't mind at all if We talked about a lot of things and just hung out.  We had a couple appetizers and then the talk turned to music.  I'm very passionate about music, OK- I'm a music Nazi.  She loved a lot of the same music that I did and then it fell to Miles Davis.  She said she wished there was a jazz place nearby so we could hear some music.  Having a a few pints of 9-ish% ale I noted that if this wasn't the first date I would suggest going back to my place since it was only a few blocks away to hear some music.  She was up for it and I hoped in her car and we drove the 3 blocks to my place.  Things were moving pretty fast, the flirtations moved to a a few kisses in the car and then music led to dancing and long conversation.  I guess at some point I chalked it up to the booze and I had forgot that she was drinking die coke all night since it was in a tall rocks glass.  As things again heated up she uttered one of those phrases that starts off well except the "BUT" or second part causes the record to skip-
"It's OK, you don't have to use a condom, I'm already Pregnant"

Say that to yourself and let it sink in.  It turns out she was at her Gyno that Monday and found out she was a month and a half pregnant.  After some awkward conversion and her leaving all I could think about was the scene from Swingers where Vince Vaughn is mocking John Favreau and says "Whose the winner, Mikey's the winner".

If all goes well I've arranged two in person interviews for this weekend.  I'm sure this will be far more interesting than my lame stories and since they're in person I can get the girls tipsy enough to give some stories that are worthwhile about their adventures in dating.

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Unnamed Woman Questionnaire Numero 1

Last week I was sick... That sick where your head is so congested and heavy you're basically retarded.  Already being below average intelligence didn't help me at all and work was crazy.  Since it took everything in my ability to show up at work rocking a 102 degree fever I didn't have time to update this wonderful dating blog.  I sent a friend of mine some questions regarding dating in general and through the busy day she obliged me in a response.  I figured it would be a lot easier than speaking to her in a nasally tone and infecting her with whatever variation of ghonasyphaherpalitis I had; I'll just comment as if it was a conversation.  Since she didn't want her name or photo posted along with the info I'll give you a little bit of background without revealing her identity. Not that it really matters since no one reads this but the 6 people interviewed; none the less...


She was born and raised in Dallas, Texas but travels the world frequently and has made this a passion in her life.  She has a post bachelor degree but doesn't use her education directly in her work.  She's a religious person but also considers food a religion in itself.  Sports in all forms have always been a part of her life and she's in her early 30's.  I think that's vague enough for her not to care...


1. Would you go on a blind date and how would you describe chemistry:
Yes, I would go on a date with a stranger. To me chemistry is a feeling that can't be quantified. I have to feel easy, flirty, wanting to share and feel giddy about being that person. Physical wise- a smile, teeth, presence, height, confidence.
While I believe Chemistry can develop over time I think there should be more of a neutral feel or excitement than the opposite.  First dates can be very awkward depending on how comfortable the person is in the surrounding.  The physical attraction has to be there from the start.  A personality can increase attraction significantly but if the initial attraction isn't there I don't see a relationship developing.

2.If you were to go from Friend to partner what things would you look for to see if they felt strongly for you:
I don't date my friends. I also don't really meet people through my friends so this question would not apply to me. 
I've dated a few of my friends and it's usually worked out well, it's never caused any permanent mending of relationships later down the line.  I also feel very strongly about having the friend-set-up; as we get older there are far less outlets to meet new people and a recommendation from a friend goes a long way.

3. Describe Passion:
Passion means a fire in your belly. A person who has a good amount of emotion and knows how to express it. Passion is having a desire to be involved with another person and actively, vocally, manners and have their own mind. 
I'm not good at this one, I routinely confuse passion for insanity- but I get you.  

4. What qualities turn you off in a mate:
A person who drinks to much. A person who is self absorbed, A racist person, A person who plays a victim, A person who who is not accountable for his actions, A person who lacks confidence.
This may be ignorant of me, but are there truly racist people still out there?  I LOVE to joke around about race, but it's all races equally including my own.  I don't think I know anyone that is really racist.  As for the other items I concur with most.  The chicks who are always talking about this or that happened to them and woe is me are a beating... I can only imagine it coming from a dude.  

5. Could you date someone that isn't the same politically as you:
Political is a personal thing so it's a deal breaker if you are too passionate about either that you  can't accept another person point of view. I am liberal socially. I am conservative / liberal in financial. I won't date someone that is do rigid in politics that everyone around them must be the same.  
I love a good logical debate so I think I agree with you the most on this one.  People form their views from their experiences and those that are concrete in political absolutes haven't experienced much at all in my conversations with them.

6. Could you date someone that partakes in recreational drug use:
No drugs!!! 
I see this one differently.  But I see it differently in a conditional sort of way- I could care less if the girl I dated smoked weed.  I don't consider it a drug and think there are hundreds of more dangerous legal drugs out there.  At the same time we're in Texas, not California and the south still thinks Weed = Heroin.  However ridiculous that is I would hope she would be cogniscient of that and be careful.  Now if we're talking Meth/ Heroin/ Oxy she can suck it and find some one else to go barter stolen copper with.

7. Both- I keep up with everything. Good t

8.What's the last book (not magazine) you read?
I am reading 'We need to talk about Kevin' now. It's a good book
I got nothing, I don't know a thing about this book.  

9. What's the best meal you've ever had?
The best meal.  Hmmm Commander Palace brunch in New Orleans
Again, I got nothing... My best meal was a few weeks ago at FT33.  Here's a few photo's from this fan-fucking-tastic meal.



10.  What's the best date you've ever been on?
Hmmm not sure. I have had several.  They all include amazing food( usually trying new things), driving around, great conversation and a sweet gesture. 
I've always had the best dates when the conversation flows effortlessly.  To me attraction + good conversation is a winner, it's that simple for me.

11.  What makes you comfortable with a partner?
There is not one thing that makes me feel comfortable. Ie , a smile, a feeling of support, a person who is present, a gentle spirit, a rub on my back, being financially stable, a person who has their own mind and accepts my autonomy. This is not something that can be written. It just is.
I know I'm comfortable with some one when I listen to them.  I definitely need to be reeled back in sometimes and if I listen then I know I like them.  If not then they're just meh....  I also want to feel affection from them without asking for it, that's another big one on the comfort scale.

12. I don't remember what I asked so I'm going to pretend I asked how she feels about the designated hitter in baseball:
I think I may. It's 50/50
The National League and their archaic rules can eat a fat one.  The American league does it right; your pitcher is there to pitch and doesn't take BP nor should he.  Pfft, what's that you say... You love that your combined pitching staff hits .128, guarantees an out, and can't sac bunt to save his life.  You sir/ madam are an idiot.

13.   Who wins in a fight to the death, Teddy Ruckspin or Winnie the Pooh
Winnie the Pooh of course and then he gets some honey right after
That fat ass Winnie the Pooh would be too stoned to take on Teddy "Fucking" Ruckspin (in the words of Johnny in Ted). Teddy Takes it easily- look at him, he gets a KO in round one.  Pooah is no Roy Nelson.

14.      If you joined a biker gang what would your nickname be
 ALL SASS
 I agree 1000000%









15.   The best comedian of all time is....
Richard Pryor or Bernie Mac
You can't argue with Pryor.  Live on the sunset strip was monumental in comedy and Pryor in general was light years ahead of his time.  When you watch it now even though some of it feels dated you realize how many comedians, both black and white, are ripping off his bits.  Just great- If you have netflix streaming some of his best stuff is on there.  I still love 'See No Evil, Hear No Evil' with Gene Wilder.  I died watching that at my dad's house in NY back in my hellion days.  


16.      What brand personifies what your mate would wear
Not sure about this one--- to broad—My mind thinks of too many things on this one
Lame 

17.      8 men out is a story about?
The White Sox – 8 men on the team got together and said they would lose the game to win money.(Gambled) It had the media referring to them as the BLACK SOX
Good answer, BUT "Shoeless" Joe Jackson didn't throw the series.  How can you say someone that hit .375 in the series throw it???

18.      If you could have any car what kind of car would it be?
Mercedes Benz – Big Body- I want to be a nice car but something that everyone can relate to. However, I have always love the Bentley (2 door)
Coming from someone that drives an E-class I can attest to what a wonderful car it is.  They keep getting better and the design is gorgeous.  The Bentley is the Bentley.  So pretty, so nice, and it screams elegance .. unless I drove one, I'd murder it out or storm troop it out.


19.      What is the most beautiful to you?
A Smile- It tells me a lot about a person and it can warm up a room

Thursday, January 3, 2013

Intro

A little background info first:   I moved to Dallas in November 2003 from Austin.  Making the transition from the Austin Wakeboard scene to the corporate life of an attorney firm in Dallas at 24 years old was shit.  Austin's free thinking spirit lends itself to the lack of judgement based solely on looks or first reaction where as Dallas pride's itself in judging others by their appearance and material possessions.
Dallas is the brand whore of Texas; ripe with 30K millionaires who drop $500 at the hottest spot on a Saturday night only to slinker back to their 1995 Corrolla missing a headlight, fully utilizing the primer, black, maroon and teal paint job (See example of said people on the right).  The women I met were equal to their male counterparts in flaunting the latest Marc Jacobs/ Sam Moon knock off with Jimmy Choo heels while eye fucking gold cards at the bar.  At the time my Vans/ DC inspired wardrobe and Nissan Exterra did nothing to draw their attention.  Now, in Austin I was always able to talk my way into these initial conversations by saying something witty or inteligient, in Dallas I wasn't able to finish a sentence before the arbitrary boyfriend reference would come out and an indifferent yet overly bored facial expression would appear as they walked away.  Another noticible difference in the two cities is Dallas people don't have house parties or gatherings that don't involve meeting at a bar.  For someone that prides himself on conversation the overwhelming blast of drum and bass didn't allow for decent dialogue.

In the last 10 years not a lot has changed.  With a few exceptions here and there I’ve “dated” the same 3 or 4 girls in rotation and have yet to find a decent steady girlfriend.  I never thought about it until I had my annual birth control meeting with a friend (Thanksgiving at her place- also a former ex-girlfriend from a long time ago) of mine who is married and has two kids, a two year old and the other who is 11 months old.  She asked when I was going to settle down- I made my standard remark in jest about me being the most important person in my life and then we talked in detail about it.  Maybe it was the wine and her lack of recent drinking which led to such an honest and open conversation. We determined that: 
1      
1.     1.  I date the wrong kind of women
2      2.  Besides her, I always go for the wrong kind of girls and need to re-do my priorites
2      3.  I’m too much of X and not enough of Y; x being everything opposite of Y
     4.  I’m on the wrong continent


With that conversation fresh in mind I went to a BBQ the next day and another friend of mine basically said the same thing later that night.  We went over my dating history and it was absolutely hilarious some of the events and actions that went on.  This made me want to ask women what they thought about their relationships.  So I did what I do best and took a poll of a few of my single female friends.  It was a two part question: The first part was describe your dream guy and the second part was describe your realistic match.  Here are the results with my comments after...


FT:
"Genuine, hard working, playful, travel minded, gumption, good looking, adaptable to society's changes, generous, and realistically I think I can get them all in someone. oh yeah- you know my guy is a white dude".
note: FT is black so let that stupid white guilt subside about the race.

Thoughts: It surprises me there isn't more descriptive physical elements in here.  Knowing FT and how demanding she can be there are a few types she dates and this generalization could be a huge range of people.  I think there is a lot left off here, way to vague for someone so specific in most other aspects of her life.... 

Attributes in Common: 4/9

GZ (this was a direct copy and paste from the email :

In no particular order, just rattling things off and I'm probably forgetting some:
TallSmart (college graduate / uses proper grammar / spelling)FunnyBroad shouldersHas a well-paying jobHas a carOwn place to liveLoves sports / plays sportsLoves animalsHas tattoosHas long-ish hairLikes to drinkLikes to go outAlpha male-typeClose to familyLoyalLikes live musicSizeable dick :)Good kisser / in bedPassionateCharmingOutgoingNot controlling or needy

Thoughts:  This is more of what I was looking for- It's very descriptive while listing physical, emotional, and financial aspects of her dream guy.  This is more of what I think women really think about and list when determining the "would ya" question and GZ has her's down.  

Attributes in common: 12/ 23

DZ: 
Dream guy: Blue Eyes, in shape, sweet, funny, sensitive, no kids or has grown kids, tall, blonde, handsome, beard, and artistic.  A photographer would be cool and white.
Realistic: Shorter but still a tad under 6', in shape and still works out but probably has a beer belly, mechanic, funny, sweet, brown hair, balding, 2 kids under 6, beard, white, likes movies and stays up playing stupid video games till 1am, and low self esteem.

Thoughts:  The last one had me rolling- knowing her and the type of guy she dates the realistic one was what she goes for.  Normally I find that most people lie to themselves in what they go for but with her she usually dates the realistic guy.  She's also Mexican so the white guilt retards can again relax.

Attributes in common: 8/23

FC:
Dream: Tall, HOT, rich, a chef
Realistic: Other than smart.. responsible and respectful... NICE, I'm tired of assholes. Plus I have to like him.

Thoughts:  FC was the first one to mention having a bond or cohesion with their mate.  She has guys fawn over her frequently but she doesn't like any of them; recently she went out on a date and the only description she could give was boring.  As funny as she is and quirky I would have expected to see humorous on here but it wasn't.
That brings me to something else.  It doesn't seem like dating is really popular in Dallas; people hang out or date after they're together but dating in the traditional sense is dead here.

Attributes in common: 2/9

Conclusion: 
Since I haven't dated any of the above; mathematics prove we've made the right choice.  I sent the request to a few of the girls that I have dated and for some reason none replied, I wouldn't have taken any of it personally but they just didn't feel comfortable doing it.  Or had better things to do than answer my retarded texts...
Wading through a lot of the junk and BS I believe the most common attribute was self sufficiency.  Most everyone named some quality that referred to being stable while being able to provide for the other person.  When I polled guys the first 5 or 6 items were physical in nature- women, being the more introspective, chose emotional based items when they were being honest.  Although almost all girls want a guy at least 6' tall which leaves my 5'8" ass stuck like chuck.  Personally I love dating tall chicks, I had an ex that was 5'11 without heels and it was awesome.
This coincides with my thoughts about how a girl will justify dating a gay with below average looks based on an above average personality while a guy will justify a 65 IQ with her 8.5 physical rating. 

My Dream:
Latina, long black hair with a slight streak of blue or purple, 1 blue eye and 1 green eye, body like Salma Hayek, lawyer, spontaneous, loves to travel, elusive to those that don't know her, humorous, kind/ warm, speaks 3+ languages, no kids.



Realistic: single, less crazy than me, stable, some ambition, max of 1 kid, has hair on her head, less crazy than me (x2), height weight appropriate, likes to travel.

Basically unless I move to Central/ South America I'm fucked in finding someone...